Tell us your story, how did you get into the industry and what has your journey looked like thus far?
I started off escorting five years ago when I was a graduate student. I have a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology and loved working with my patients but, quite frankly, didn’t make enough money to have a decent standard of living. A guy I dated had seen some escorts when he was in college and told me about it. I’ve always been really into sex and meeting interesting people, so I spent the last few bucks in my bank account on an ad, took some pics at home, and just went for it!
Immediately, I realized this job gave me way more satisfaction than any vanilla job I’d had so far. I also get fairly compensated for the emotional labor than women are often simply expected to do for free. I keep my “brand” pretty real, so I end up connecting with a lot of intriguing people that I really enjoy spending time with. I’m a major nerd, I think monogamy is bullshit, and I like playing by my own rules. Escorting was a beautiful fit.
Three years ago, I took the plunge and fully left my vanilla career. I moved out to LA and began modelling for SuicideGirls. I always loved following alt models online but didn’t have the confidence to do it myself, despite being an avid tattoo collector. Porn was a natural next step for a sex worker and nude model, so I signed with an agent last year and started making professional porn. It’s all super fun and let’s me play around with various interests.
What are some of your hobbies and interests outside of work?
I’m a major cat mom. As soon as I bought my house, I adopted three feral cats whom I pamper beyond belief. Honestly, I think they get me better than most humans do.
Art and design get me going, too. I collect mid century modern furniture, mostly Danish stuff built in the sixties. My home is full of quirky art, ranging from Curtis Jere wall sculptures to modern abstract paintings from Amelia Ford (a brilliant artist who also happens to do sex work).
As a mildly autistic person, I dig numbers. I love making spreadsheets to track my workouts, play around with my investments, and nerd out on data.
What can clients and non sex workers do to help reduce stigma within the sex industry?
We all need to feel more confident in confronting whorephobia out in the world. You’d be surprised how many people can be open to changing their views on the sex industry when they hear personal stories of how it benefits clients and providers, how we maintain safety, and the sense of community that we build.
I’m sure you get this a lot but where did you get the idea for your gorgeous tattoos?
Nature mesmerizes me! As a child, I would spend hours getting lost in the woods in Vermont, marveling at the plants and animals. I like finding incredible tattooers and letting them run with that theme. I often don’t even know what the tattoo will be until I arrive for my appointment, but it’s always beautiful.
When you're having a bad day, what do you do to make yourself feel better?
Pleasant sensory experiences always boost my mood. Back when I was busy with academia and a rather stuffy career, I denied myself a lot of basic pleasures. Now, I listen to music (Radiohead is a long-time favorite), tend to my houseplants, cook elaborate vegan meals even if I’m alone, and go for walks in nature or around LA.
What do you think the public should know about the sex industry and sex workers?
People should really understand that the popular narrative around trafficking is bullshit. There are certainly cases of people being pimped and trafficked, but “rescue” organizations are often just conservative groups that would rather they be exploited by corporations for minimum wage than work safely and independently.
There are ways to do sex work safely, and it’s very empowering and lucrative for many women. I was sexually harassed in every single job I ever held before this, but I was never compensated for it or able to set boundaries and be supported in that. I know I’m not alone in feeling this way.
What kind of music are you currently listening to?
I go through spurts of listening to all different kinds of music. Checking through my most recent playlists, there’s a lot of Radiohead, Elliot Smith, Tycho, Beck, Velvet Underground, Girlpool, Cherry Glazerr, Fiona Apple, etc. I hate pop music and redneck country stuff, but I’ll jam out to anything else that makes me feel god or that I can connect to.
What are some benefits and draw backs of the sex industry?
I love being able to be in charge of my own sexuality and have lots of partners on my own terms, but there’s always an undercurrent of misogyny. I’ve also had my fair share of stalkers and random men feeling entitled to my attention because they saw me on Pornhub or Twitter.
What is one go to piece of advice you would give to workers just starting out?
Ooof. When I first started, I already had a lot of tattoos and was kind of a weirdo. Girls told me I couldn’t charge high rates or get good clients because of that.
When I started being very authentic in my branding, my business took off. I’ve become very successful being fully myself. Don’t let anyone tell you that your escort image needs to conform to some basic standard. Figure out how to show the real you, and you’ll attract people who are going to really adore you.
My dream pet would be: A pig!!!
If you were going to buy me a drink you should buy me a: Dry Manhattan
My favorite lingerie label is: Thistle and Spire or Little Kitten LA+
My favourite restaurant is: Little Pine