Traveling with a companion can turn any trip into something extraordinary! Whether you're hoping to share a quiet moment in your hometown, bring connection to a business trip, or explore a destination on your bucket list, inviting someone special along (maybe your all time favourite companion, maybe someone new) can make your experience deeper, richer, and more memorable.
But if you're new to this kind of arrangement, it’s natural to feel a little overwhelmed. Booking a fly-me-to-you date (FMTY) is different from a local meeting, and you want to make sure you get it right!
As someone who has shared many travel dates over the years, from long-haul international adventures to cozy weekends away, I’ve had the pleasure of guiding many kind, thoughtful clients through the process! This guide is designed to demystify it, answer your most common questions, and walk you through the steps so you feel confident in planning a travel experience with your favorite companion.
What is a FMTY? And what do other travel acronyms mean?
A FMTY (Fly Me To You) date happens when a companion travels to your location. Maybe they’re flying to your city for a weekend, meeting you halfway in a destination of your choice, or tagging along during a conference to add some joy to your downtime. If they’re not already located in or touring the area, it’s considered a FMTY.
Other terms you might see
- TMTY (Train Me To You): same idea, but traveling by train
- DMTY (Drive Me To You): they drive themselves, usually for nearby destinations
- FYTM (Fly Yourself To Me): you’re the one traveling to their home base
Why choose a travel date over someone local?
There are plenty of reasons to invite someone to join you:
- You’ve developed a connection with a specific companion
- You’re celebrating something meaningful
- You’d like a trusted face by your side while traveling
- You’re attending an event or conference and want a shared experience
- You prefer privacy and discretion away from home
For many, the appeal lies in the continuity and emotional ease that comes from traveling with someone who already feels familiar: someone who knows your favourite wine, remembers to always bring your favourite sound machine on overnights, and shares your sense of adventure and vacation style!
Where can I book a FMTY? What types of dates work well?
If your companion is open to the location, the sky’s the limit. FMTY dates can happen almost anywhere:
- A business trip where they meet you for dinner and help wind down your evenings
- A visit to your hometown for a low-key escape
- An international destination like Iceland, Morocco, or even Antarctica!
- A convention, film festival, or event you’d enjoy attending together
Not every travel date has to be luxurious. Some of the most meaningful connections grow out of simpler moments: sharing a milkshake in a small-town diner, laughing under the stars while camping, or watching your favourite show on a hotel couch.
Is there a typical length for a FMTY?
The minimum and maximum length depends on the individual provider and the travel distance involved.
A rough guideline:
- For closer destinations (under 4 hours), a dinner date or overnight may be enough
- For cross-country or international travel, aim for at least 24 hours to make it worthwhile
Longer dates offer more time to relax and build intimacy, but what's most important is aligning expectations with your companion and reviewing their policies.
Can a FMTY be our first time meeting?
Absolutely. Some companions, myself included, are happy to meet someone for the first time on a travel date. An overnight or weekend together can be a wonderful way to dive into something immersive and get to know one another in a relaxed setting. Just be sure to communicate openly and ask any questions you have beforehand.
What goes into pricing a FMTY?
Some companions offer flat-rate FMTY packages that include their time, travel, and other expenses. I personally offer flat-rate FMTY options, which simplify everything and make planning easier for both of us, and saves time from you wondering if it’s in your budget before you reach out!
Others quote custom rates based on variables like:
- Destination
- Time of year
- Booking lead time
- Length of date
- Required travel upgrades (such as business class for health reasons, I know with my chronic pain, laying flat makes the world of difference)
- Any specific activities or requests
If you’re estimating costs yourself, you can multiply their daily or overnight rate by the number of days you’re envisioning, then add roundtrip travel, incidentals, and recovery time. Be mindful that they may also be blocking out several days to accommodate your date.
Why are FMTY dates more expensive than local ones?
It’s not just about the cost of a flight. Travel dates require significant planning, preparation, and recovery time. Your companion is setting aside multiple days for you, handling logistics, adjusting to travel stress, and stepping into a date with energy and presence. You’re receiving their full attention, likely in a new environment–and that added effort is reflected in the rate.
What’s usually included in the rate?
Every provider is different, but travel date rates often include:
- Their time and companionship
- Travel expenses (flights, ground transport)
- Hotel stay if not hosted
Meals, activities, and other experiences may be arranged separately or included depending on your companion’s approach.
Not a planner? You’re in luck!
Many of us love curating dates! If the idea of sorting through hotel options or choosing restaurants sounds exhausting, simply say so in your inquiry. With the right information, your companion can create a thoughtful itinerary tailored to your taste and interests.
How much should I expect to pay up front?
A higher deposit than standard bookings is common. Depending on the provider, you may be asked to pay 30 to 75 percent in advance. Personally, I require 50 percent to secure FMTY dates, which allows me to begin booking travel right away.
What’s the difference between a FMTY and sponsoring a tour?
Sponsoring a tour means you’re helping to launch a visit to your city–your booking gets confirmed first, and your companion may see other clients during their trip. A true FMTY, by contrast, is arranged just for you. Some people offer only one or the other, some offer both! And some companions offer hybrid options, with the possibility of exclusivity if requested.
Who arranges the travel?
In most cases, the companion books their own flights and transport once the deposit is received. This ensures discretion, comfort, and flexibility. If you’re booking the hotel, ask whether they have any preferences or needs like bed size, a bathtub vs shower, or offer to let them choose if you’d like them to handle it!
Will we share a room?
Often yes, but this depends on both of your comfort. If you’re unsure, ask. If you’re booking a shared room, choose one with a spacious bed. And if you know you’re a restless sleeper, offering a second room can be a thoughtful gesture.
How far in advance should I book a FMTY?
As soon as possible, especially if you have specific dates or are traveling during peak times. Booking early gives you more options and a smoother planning experience.
How do I get started with a FMTY inquiry?
1. Review your companion’s website thoroughly
2. Estimate the timeframe and costs
3. Send a detailed booking request that includes:
- Proposed dates and duration
- Destination
- Any specific interests, preferences, or requests
- Whether you’d like her to plan logistics
The more detail you provide, the easier it is to begin a clear and confident conversation.
Planning something special?
If you’ve got an upcoming trip, milestone, or event, it could be the perfect time to explore what a travel date could look like. A little connection goes a long way, and a fly-me-to-you experience can turn an ordinary trip into something extraordinary!
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