What is an Erotic Massage?

Millie Webb - 27 Aug 2025

You’ve probably heard the terms erotic massage, sensual massage, happy ending, or even rub and tug, but do you know exactly what happens in one? If you’ve been thinking of indulging in a professional erotic massage (and it is an indulgence) read on for a guide to erotic massage from a professional.

I started my sex work career giving nude massages with happy endings, though I won’t date myself by telling you when. I spent years in softly lit rooms, rubbing, tugging, slipping, and sliding across clients. I loved working in FBSM (full body sensual massage), creating a relaxing, sensual, fun, and erotic atmosphere for my clients.

What is an erotic massage?

An erotic massage is a type of massage where the focus is on erotic pleasure through touch. The provider may wear lingerie or be nude (or both!) and will massage the client using their hands and oftentimes their body. The massage is full body, including the erogenous zones. It can end in hand relief (a hand job), oral sex, or sex, depending on the provider’s preferences and boundaries. The effect is often a very sensual experience for the client, and it can also be very exciting!

How does it differ from other kinds of massage?

An erotic massage might not be quite as beneficial as a remedial or sports message, but I can guarantee it’s much hotter! In a standard massage, the focus is on relaxation, muscle tension release, and even treating certain conditions with the muscles, tendons, and bones. The focus of an erotic massage is sensual, so everything is attuned to creating a charged, erotic effect.

Types of erotic massages

FBSM: This is the shorthand for ‘full body sensual massage’, and is the type of erotic massage you’re most likely to find.

Bodyslide: A bodyslide is generally a feature of an erotic massage. This is where the provider uses their entire oiled body to massage you.

Nuru: Nuru is a style of erotic massage that comes from Japan. It’s a full body-to-body massage using a special gel made from seaweed. The term ‘nuru’ is actually the Japanese word for ‘slippery’.

Tantra: Your erotic massage provider may incorporate elements of Tantra into the massage. Tantra is an ancient esoteric tradition from South Asia, and your provider may weave aspects of meditation and energetic work with the sensual aspects of your massage.

Benefits of erotic massage

There are many benefits of having an erotic massage. The first is relaxation. Like any other massage, the process is relaxing and calming–letting your provider rub away all your cares and worries, as well as any light muscle tension you might have. Another benefit of an erotic massage is release. Who doesn’t love an orgasm?

Erotic massage can be a form of self care, a way to treat yourself to something that focuses on you. Finally, don’t discount the benefit of a sexy, fun time.

Do’s and Don’ts of receiving an erotic massage

Do shower properly beforehand. You’re about to get up close and intimate with your erotic massage provider, so it’s important to make sure you’re as fresh and clean as possible. You can read our client’s guide to hygiene for more information.

Do make sure you engage a professional erotic massage provider. You can’t just ask any massage practitioner for this kind of service! In fact, it’s considered extremely poor form, or even harassment. There are plenty of professional erotic massage providers out there who would love to provide you a service, so don’t bother your non-erotic massage therapist by asking.

Don’t disrespect your massage provider’s boundaries. Some FBSM providers offer extra services on top of the standard massage, and some don’t. Always ask beforehand if you’re looking for a little something extra, so you can find the right provider for you!

Now you’re ready to get a little slippery and a lot satisfied!

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