Thanks for stopping in for our sex worker interview series 'A Tryst With...' We're joined by Tampa Escort Blush to chat about regulars, worship, and queer family.
Editors Note: mention of incarceration, violence, and sexual assault.
We’d love to know a little of your backstory - how did you get here and what do you do?
My backstory is average. I remain open to mainstream work, but it’s just too volatile. Good client relationships last longer than most entry level (shit) jobs, and pay better. Waffle House fired me because I lied on my resume about having food service experience. And the pay was crap. This is the only job that pays me an attractive wage for an hour of work, and I can’t really get fired, especially if I treat my regulars right. In fact, one of my regulars occasionally hires me to do construction work for his company (although he pays me minimum wage when I do that work).
When you started in the industry what did you find was a big learning curve for you? Was there anything you took to like a duck to water?
A lot of guys are more than willing to offer themselves up as a sugar daddy, and at first glance this is an attractive offer depending on your circumstances. Male protection, basic needs met, the appearance of a bougie lifestyle – but putting all your eggs in one basket like that really sets you up to be controlled.
I found it safer to cultivate a few regulars who you can trust and who are willing to go the extra mile for you – treat them well, and who knows… maybe they will bail you out of jail when that day comes.
Also you should be open with your duo partners about how much you are getting paid and work together to get the client to match whoever gets the highest offer. There is a taboo against sharing wage and class information in America, these things are tied to ideas of personal worth especially if the kind of work is sexual. This is too bad because it only benefits the bosses when we don't know the going rate for what we do.
Do you find that there is a type of client who seeks you out, who you really enjoy seeing?
I like to be adored and worshipped. I didn’t always think of myself as pretty. High Payers. I like consistent high payers.
What can a client do to impress you?
Have enough of a personality to show me that you’re not the police. And help me distinguish you from one of the time wasters early on in the conversation. About 75% of my text messages are just guys jerking off and tricking me into some miniscule amount of phone sex (that I thought might be a legitimate interview for services). Cash app me $25 to start the conversation out so that I know you aren’t a time waster. And when you do pull up, come with flowers and make me feel admired. Show kindness, chivalry, and respect.
What’s your favourite kind of booking?
The kind who will pay my electric bill. And if you want me to trust you with a long distance outcall then follow the security protocols I set out for you, and we’ll be all set.
Erotic massage sessions, tho, I guess because I get more money and because the client treats me more like a professional.
What is something clients can do to make you feel more comfortable as a trans non-binary worker?
Respect my pronouns and what I consider myself to be. Treat me with respect, and kindness but also, you know, slut me out and make me feel like a porn star. But to get me to that “daddies little slut” or “spit roast bottom” mentality, first I need to feel safe.
I need to feel safe. I'm a femme who's been incarcerated and sexually assaulted. These experiences have left me traumatized. It's a constant struggle to feel safe in a world that reminds me daily of my vulnerability.
It goes without saying that you should not behave in a way that makes me even consider having to resort to calling the police. I do not feel safer around the police, my body reacts to them as it would any predator.
Can you share a little about your experience of being a mixed race trans non-binary sex worker? What's it like for you at those intersections?
Well, it's Christmas Eve and I'm broke and the power is out. I missed at least one client today due to the complications that stem from not having a space with power and Wi-Fi at the same time and place. Most of these are low-income problems, but I can’t help but wonder if my race has something to do with why I keep getting lowball offers from clients. Someone actually texted me asking for free services tonight, I don’t know if that was supposed to be a joke or what.
If I do get an unruly client, I can’t really depend on the police because they are a wildcard anyway but especially because my partner has an arrest warrant (the county baited them into a prostitution charge, and the jail and prosecutor there is just so horrendous we couldn't risk showing up for court).
Being trans is more than just being a category of pornography. I spend a lot of time putting together my appearance before I go out… I can't just wake up and go to the store. The person I feel comfortable presenting to the world takes a while to put together.
I have trauma to cope with as well. Big traumas like violence and sexual assault as well as the almost daily transphobic microaggressions I experience no matter how much time I put into my appearance before going out. I didn’t always see myself as pretty. They called me a nerd in school. They called me Erkel. Now look at him. Jahlil White. Fine as fuck.
You’re a musician. Can you tell us a little about your interest in music?
I like to create different wave frequencies, different vibes. For me it's about having fun and staying true to yourself. I like being by myself when I’m at the studio.
You also have a passion for fashion. Can you share what fashion brings into your life?
My body is a canvas and my wardrobe is out of control. It can’t be contained by my closet. I like to make a scene and confuse the straight boys when I walk down Nebraska Ave.
What are your top 4 playlists, artists, or albums for setting the mood during sessions?
Tyla
Travis Scott if I’m feeling adventurous
Tate McRae – greedy
Drake and Trippy Redd
Playboy Carty
What’s your favorite way to relax and recharge after a long week?
I try not to relax. I can't really afford to relax. I take that back… I do spend a good amount of time in prayer and trying to cultivate my gratitude. I pray for my friends, my bio-family, my queer family. I see a lot of stress among us and I pray for peace and healing.
Is there a book, album, tv show, or movie that you’re into at the moment? Why?
I don't make time for these kinds of things either right now unfortunately. I've found myself much of the time caught up in survival mode since my release from prison in early 2024. The good news is one of my sugar daddies added me on to his Netflix account a few days ago, but I haven’t really messed with it yet. Anyone wanna recommend something? Shoot me a message I guess. If it’s not on Netflix, I’m also an old school internet pirate and I can find just about anything.
One of my everyday hobbies is: dressing up and taking pictures.
My favorite color is: blush pink.
What would be the title of your memoir?
Tired, Washed-Up, & Weird
From Ballout to Blush
My favourite albums are: Sexy Redd, Jaquees, Juice Wrrld.
If you want to win my heart you must:
Make me feel good. Make me want to be around you. Be genuinely interested in me and the things I am interested in. Don’t fake that. If we don’t have something in common other than you wanting to fuck me then I’ll need you to continue to pay up. And even if we do have something in common, I still need to get paid. This is my only job right now. It certainly helps if you are artistic and have something to say or express. Have some passion for something.
Also I’ll need you to be humble because I’m a bitch so I need someone who is able to put up with that. I like mature adults who can be serious and listen.
I can still enjoy the company of people who are young and look good, I suppose… I used to chase that. Nowadays I find myself attracted to dad-bods. Conventionally sexy people can be so dull because nobody forces them to make a real effort to win the attention of others.
Also if you think you’re about to win my love by delivering me from a working-class existence, I will test the sincerity of your altruism when I ask to bring my partner with me. Hell, if I could seize your wealth and redistribute it I would. Until then, I will accept your generosity with gratitude.
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