Thanks for stopping by for the latest in our sex worker interview series, 'A Tryst With...' Today we speak with New York Dominatrix Mistress Seren about ritual, fantasy, and immersive art installations.
We’d love to know a little of your backstory - how did you get here and what do you do?
I read Whip Smart by Melissa Febos when I was 19 and was completely mystified by the world of professional domination. Living in a small town and having no real understanding of my power, it felt like a far-fetched dream. After college, I moved to NYC and built a career in fashion, art, and then tech. I felt trapped in the Matrix and needed to find a way out. I started imagining what life could look like if I were to do what I wanted. A simple question, yet hard to answer.
I had two guiding ideals: I wanted to step into my power, and I wanted to expand the human experience—for myself and others. And that is when my dream of being a Dominatrix floated back into my consciousness.
Now, I am proud to call myself an International Pro-Dominatrix and BDSM Couples Coach.
What looks different now than it did at the beginning of your journey?
I am far more difficult to access now. I am highly selective about the type of clients I allow to serve me. What excites me most about BDSM is the power exchange, so I only accept true submissives who are willing to relinquish all control. I don’t cater to fetishists or those looking for me to complete their specific fantasy or role-play. I require someone who is ready to kneel before me, stripped of their ego, ready to take my ride—which is far beyond anything they could’ve come up with on their own.
What did you find was a big learning curve for you? Was there anything you took to like a duck to water?
There were certainly many things I had to learn, but I quickly picked up on the psychological games of BDSM. I’ve been told I have a natural gift for humiliation play. Despite my slender frame, I also have a strong hand for spanking.
A learning curve that I am still climbing is rope. Only recently have I started to learn rope bondage. I like the ease and speed of cuffs, but now I enjoy the slowness of ties. Though I wouldn’t call it Shibari—it’s not worthy of that yet.
What are some of the skills you had to learn when you first started in the industry? Were there things you needed to ‘unlearn’ to be good at your job?
Due to my training, I felt secure in my hard skills to be a strong Dominatrix in the dungeon. And with a corporate background, I applied my expertise in sales and marketing to build my business.
What I had to learn was more intrinsic. It was about having the self-confidence to walk into a room with a stranger and truly own the space—and own them. That kind of presence goes beyond putting on latex and swinging a flogger. It’s about cultivating authentic power from within.
It’s about embodying the Dominatrix, Goddess, Seductress, or Mommy. It’s about being able to inspire devotion and worship and then receive it fully—knowing that you deserve it.
That’s the difference between a scene where someone just goes through the motions of BDSM versus a scene that is felt—where my dominance sinks into every cell of my submissive’s body.
What was your training like? Did you experience rigid hierarchical structures and if so, what was that experience like?
I spent a year honing my skills before taking on a client. I started with an intensive six-month BDSM course for aspiring Dommes. There was a natural hierarchy of teacher/student. As students, we used honorifics and followed small protocols. This was intentional and used as a tool for learning—to inspire our sessions and authority. That course was truly life-changing. It wasn’t just about learning technique; it was about confronting our shame, mommy/daddy issues, our relationship with money, and our relationship with our sexual expression by using the BDSM tools and techniques we were learning and practicing on each other in real time. It was intense, and I became the Domme I am today because of it.
From there, I attended other online Domme courses, became a certified somatic practitioner, and now I am taking an Orgasmic Hypnosis course. I love to learn, so I will always be a student. What makes BDSM so special to me is that there is always a new dark corner to explore.
How has your work changed your relationship and approach to consent?
My relationship with consent has deepened since I began this work, and for me, it’s more important than ever—not only in play but in my day-to-day life.
My clients are often surprised to see the level of complexity in my BDSM consent form. For me, it is mandatory that everything that might happen in a scene is consented to. I don’t just ask for yes or no—I include a level of interest and require clients to note whether something is an edge for them but one they’re curious to explore. This creates the safety and trust required for a beautiful and transformative BDSM scene to unfold.
What are you looking to conjure when you craft a scene for a client?
That depends—am I working with an individual or a couple? Are we focusing on personal growth goals, or is this a hedonistic experience?
Regardless, my vision is always to create something expansive with an impact that lingers long after the scene is over. I want my clients to leave feeling electric, alive, and free from shame.
Do you have a pre or post session routine/ritual?
Ritual is definitely important to my practice. Upon arriving at the dungeon, I put the music of the scene on, slip into my latex or leather, and light a candle. I consider my Domina persona an archetype—she is a part of me. I take a moment, eyes closed, to call in Mistress Seren and ask that other parts of myself step aside (for example, my everyday woman or inner child).
At the end of the session, I blow out the candle. I thank my Mistress for her presence and invite my everyday self to return. I like to leave everything in the dungeon and not carry a scene with me throughout my day. A scene is a fantasy, and I am building a world that I leave right where it began.
Where do you draw inspiration from in your BDSM practice?
Creating scenes is an artistic process for me, so I try to stay in an inspired mindset, which is to say inspiration is everywhere if you look for it.
Last year, I was on a small remote island in Japan and fell in love with an immersive James Turrell installation. The artwork made me feel overwhelmed and in complete awe; time became irrelevant for just that moment. I walked away with tears in my eyes, already missing the experience I just had. That feeling the Turrell piece evoked in me became the inspiration for how I wanted my clients to feel.
What are some of your favourite kinds of sessions? What’s a fetish you love to explore with clients?
I love a cathartic scene. I am a true sadist, and I get a real thrill from guiding someone into the emotion of anger through physical pain. Anger is a very misunderstood emotion—one that is important to befriend and release in a healthy way. This is particularly poignant for women, as we are conditioned by society to suppress our anger. I love introducing someone to their anger and helping them build a supportive relationship with this key emotion.
I also adore working with couples. Navigating BDSM and power dynamics is complex and can go awry easily. It’s incredibly fulfilling to be both the Dominatrix and the Educator, guiding couples toward creating a new, sexy dynamic in their relationship.
Lastly, I love when a client comes seeking atonement for their life choices. I get to be the wicked punisher, and I have a lot of fun crafting unique ways for them to pay the price for their actions.
How do you deal with the emotional and physiological highs and lows of domination? What kinds of aftercare do you provide to yourself?
When I work, I work hard, and I like to push my own edge—both as a Domme and as a business owner. So, I have two approaches to aftercare.
First: The most important form of aftercare is rest. Allowing myself to sleep in, nap, and take full rest days is vital. Every week or so, I spend a solo day at a bathhouse, getting a massage and cycling through the sauna and cold plunge.
Second: Seasonal breaks. I take two months off in both winter and summer to travel. This is certainly a luxury—but it’s an essential reset. I use this time to reflect on my business, reconnect with my desires, and refocus on what I want to build next.
My highs and lows are mostly impacted by how “successful” I feel I am. When I have a packed schedule and a strong financial month, I’m flying high. When things slow, I can get really down. So, I am working on untangling my business’s success from my general mood. As a solo entrepreneur, it’s not sustainable to have the two so intertwined.
My favorite corset is: My latex Corset by MMLatex
The makeup item I swear by is: Kiko Milano Unlimited Double Touch Lipstick, it’s a lip stain that doesn’t budge. I wear it in every session.
If you want to win my heart you must: Have an unshakable willingness to serve, be generous without expectation, and revel in my pleasure.
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