Welcome back to our sex worker interview series 'A Tryst With...' We're joined by Las Vegas Escort Lita, to chat about shadowbans, goth girlfriends, and Magic The Gathering!
What’s your story? How did you get started as an escort and how’s it going?
Well, I started out as a dominatrix only in 2016 in the SF Bay Area – it was my goal to be a domme! I volunteered at my local dungeon, was active in the kinky community, and even had the pleasure to attend a weekend dominatrix intensive. After getting in, I realized I had a much more expanded interest in sexual exploration from more than a dominant position, and so I got curious about escorting. A friend of mine who was previously only a dominatrix had started offering dominant gfe style sessions and she introduced me to the sites, how she did things, and off I went to explore my escorting life in 2019! I love it and although it hasn’t always been roses, it is definitely what I am meant to do with my life.
How has the industry changed since you started?
I also make porn in addition to escorting, so I’ve experienced a LOT of changes. I came into sex work in 2016, just after SESTA/FOSTA and had to deal with learning how to navigate advertising and screening alongside a panicked industry. OnlyFans had just started popping off, which introduced a great way for anyone to get their content seen but also created a SLEW of problems with lack of knowledge regarding legalities and just anyone being able to access our previously super locked down community, which has created some safety issues. I have some feelings about that – but overall sex work is always difficult. There is no HR. The truth is, until we see some real societal changes, I think we just have to roll with the punches and do what we can to keep our community safe!
How has the increased reliance on social media impacted your feelings towards the job? How do things like shadowbanning affect your work?
I have a mixed relationship with social media. I like using it to keep in touch with my fans but overall I just want to do appointments, so I find it tedious. I try to keep my social media tuned into my content and my day to day life, and hope someone sees it. I have been shadowbanned for so long! I guess it affects my work but I can’t care because there is nothing I can do about it. I have successfully removed a shadowban by keeping my page SFW – but my XXX posts still do better so it feels like a losing game regardless. I try to keep up with ads and external forms of getting myself in front of people, building my SEO up, and taking any opportunities to do appearances on podcasts or take paid shoots for studios.
What has sex work taught you about yourself?
A lot of things, but mostly that I will always be okay on my own. I have my back, and no matter what, I can always take care of myself. I never felt that way before sex work, I was always questioning and doubting if I would be okay. I was stressed all the time and felt like a failure. Sex work also gave me a lot of confidence in my body, a lot of people love me, and have shared a deep connection with my curves and my soul. And it is so beautiful that I feel almost no body shame anymore!
Do you find that there is a type of client who seeks you out, who you really enjoy seeing?
I get a lot of sweeties who just want a cute goth girlfriend, for sure. I’m like, ‘diet goth gf’, I don’t dress as heavily as someone who is more trad goth, and I think men really like that feminine and more e-goth vibe. A lot of family guys for sure, they are so lovely. I am based in Las Vegas, so I have people who come every year when they are in town for work!
On the kink side, I get a LOT of queer folks, which I love. A lot of people who want to explore kink and submission with another queer babe who wants them to experience euphoria. I also get a lot of newbies, people who are not sure about femdom or fetish and want to try something for the first time outside of a dungeon or extreme space.
You’re a BDSM practitioner who offers sensual services - can you tell us a little about this kind of kink work?
I specialize in sensual domination. I get pleasure from pushing someone else to explore their fantasies in whatever way feels good and taking it to the ultimate level. I am NOT a traditional domme – I do not enjoy protocol, or having to monitor someone in a traditional D/S role. I am a hedonist, with a very perverted mind who wants to create a tender space for you to share your deepest desires and let me twist them into reality. I do enjoy masochists, but only if they are a true masochist. I don’t derive my pleasure as a dominant from hurting or forcing – I prefer to seduce you into submitting to your true desire. You catch more flies with honey...
How do kink and sensuality combine for you? What does each aspect bring to the other within a session?
Kink is so personal, raw, and emotional, and creates a space for you to get closer to someone in a way no one else probably has with them. I’ve found when you introduce a more sensual, coaxing, encouraging energy rather than an abrasive or forceful one, the person in that space will give you their all. And to me, that is so sexy. Someone who is so entranced, so consumed by your energy that they are willing to let themselves slip into the deepest pleasure they have ever experienced. That is why I love combining sensuality and kink. That is not to say other styles are wrong – they just do not vibe with my energy!
How do you bring your own personality and personal style to your kink work?
I am a hedonist with a high sex drive, so a lot of my kink sessions tend to focus on creating a slow, tense sensory build up to an overwhelming release. I am very playful – I laugh, I say silly things, I taunt and tease. However, I also like to romance my subs when they are in the palm of my hands, make them feel adored. A lot of them are nervous and I think a gentler experience helps them to let down their walls a bit more.
What’s a fetish you love to explore with clients? Do you have any fetishes yourself?
My favorite fetishes to explore with clients are strap on, edging or orgasm control, bondage, sensation play, electro stimulation, gender bending, and make-me-bi fantasies… but of course, there is more that I offer. These are just my favorites.
What’s your favorite piece of kink equipment? Why?
It is funny because I pondered this, and I guess my answer is my brain. If you are truly creative, kinky and naturally dominant, you don’t need any other equipment other than your devious little mind to totally rock someone’s world. I love improv, I don’t script my videos or my scenes and so I am all about finding things in my environment to use as well.
Traditionally, I think the Venus for Men by Sybian is my favorite piece of equipment. It is a milking machine, and it is hot and mean. We had one at my old dungeon and there is one on my wishlist, for anyone who is curious and would like to book that session….
You’re a content creator! There are so many options when it comes to the aesthetics of filming - improvised versus scripted/amateur, hand-held devices versus professional film. etc. What kinds of styles do you like to shoot in?
I started just using an iPhone, and as someone who works alongside porn studios and more known creators, I’m going to tell you that unless you are shooting movie quality, you really only need an iPhone. I know a lot of independent studios and people you’d never guess are just using an iPhone.
But I am an overachiever, so I upgraded to a cute little DJI Osmo camera and DJI action camera because I wanted my videos to look a little nicer. I shoot mostly solo and POV, when I do shoot with partners there is usually a camera person or we are using a tripod. The Osmo cameras have stepped up my game, the quality is a little better, and it looks so cool because a lot of what I shoot is vore or weird fetish, and they let me get really cool angles. The camera can auto follow me, so I can put it on a shelf and make it look like a tiny person is watching me. All that good weird shit!
My aesthetic for content is well lit, sexy, and bombastic. I like to shoot over-the-top, silly stuff, but to me the most important thing is that they can see, and that everyone looks hot, haha. My top categories are currently vore, vampire, giantess, cuckolding, impregnation fantasies, and bondage.
What are your hobbies and interests outside of work? What do you like to do in your downtime?
I play Magic the Gathering. My best friend taught me how to play last February, and I am obsessed. I have a really mean Olivia, Oppulent Outlaw commander deck that I have already had a few people side eye at the casual table for being a little too mean. And they have started teaching me DND. We are playing an adventure league campaign right now. I’m a fairy rogue with a criminal history who is like a Robin Hood type now.
Outside of that, I collect records, read horror comics, binge true crime and trash TV, and smoke a lot of weed.
Is there a book, album, tv show, or movie that has had a major impact on your life?
Buffy the Vampire Slayer has definitely impacted my life. I latched on from my teen years and have never moved on. I love her, she is my favorite super hero and there are so many layers emotionally for me. It is also just a fun show, please watch it if you have not. Currently I am listening to The Rewatcher Podcast that is hosted by the ladies from Morbid Podcast. They are watching and recapping the entire show and have had some guest stars. There is a really cool Sunnydale convention this year at the high school where they shot the original show. James Marsters will be there and I am trying to get a client to take me on a date haha. Yes, I will be wearing my teeth.
My ultimate weakness is: sexy evil women.
My favorite food is: sushi.
The dorkiest thing about me is: I snort laugh sometimes.
If you want to buy me a drink, you could order a: dirty martini, gin. Blue cheese olives preferred.
For me, the best part of sex is: looking into your eyes as I coax an insane orgasm out of you.
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