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What people say about Tryst

We love hearing from people who use and love Tryst! Here are some of the things people have said about us.

I am so grateful to be addressed with respect and kindness here. I don’t know if you’ve ever had to email with other ad sites, but they’re not playing the same game Tryst is.

August 2021 | via Email

I love how easy it is to navigate while also giving me all the information I need and making me feel safe and secure.

June, 2021 | via Email

I really appreciate your dedication and helping me even on a Sunday!!! You're amazing

August 2021 | via Email

Tryst is lovely and the team has created an outlet that has such an impact, that they drive not only providers to proudly use their website, but also professional and sophisticated clients alike. You create class and help uncover the sexy, empowered side of independent sex work.

November, 2020 | via Email

What to expect when booking a sex worker?

We know how daunting it can be to see a sex worker for the first time, so we’ve put together a super handy Client Guide to help ensure everything runs smoothly. Here are a few quick tips about what to expect!

🔍 Screening

Many workers will require their clients to submit themselves to some level of screening. This process will vary from sex work to sex worker and will often involve some form of identification.

💸 Payment

Many workers prefer cash payments. But some may have other preferences for how they receive payments and deposits, such as via crypto-curency.

⏱️ Time

Just as many other freelancers, sex workers do not work 24/7 and may not be available exactly when you want them. Please be courteous towards their listed availabilities and allow a reasonable amount time for them to respond.

A Tryst with, our interview series

Get to know your favourite escorts, BDSM and massage providers from across the globe with our interview series, A Tryst with!

Tryst.link Sex Worker Blog

Get a behind the scenes look at the sex industry, learn how to become a better ally and keep up to date on all things Tryst.link.

Why does sex work need to be decriminalised, not just legalised?

The criminalisation of sex work needlessly harms vulnerable people. Advocates for change have touted the legalisation of sex work as the best way to achieve harm minimisation against. However, creating a narrow path of ‘legal’ sex work necessitates the creation of illegal sex work which presents the same issues that we have now. The so-called ‘Nordic’ model that some nations in Europe have adopted, does not criminalise providers but instead targets clients. The model has been proposed in some areas of the United States in an attempt to create safer working conditions for providers. However, it has been shown to exacerbate dangerous issues for workers, as clients are forced to break the law and workers could be targeted for encouraging criminal behaviour. Clients, having already broken the law to engage a provider, are more likely to commit further crimes or take advantage of vulnerable workers.

Sex Workers on Decriminalisation

Learn more about Sex Workers in this series by The Archive


How can I help the sex workers rights movement?

There are wonderful grass roots, peer-led sex worker organisations across the world doing important work, not only to keep sex workers safe, but also providing those who have been in exploitative situations with the resources to help them leave or re-enter the sex industry if they wish. A full list of local organisations and a little about who they are can be found in our sex worker resources section. Below we have put together a few simple ways you can help sex workers move towards a fairer working environment.

Donate and Volunteer

We are finally starting to see more public awareness of the difficulties sex workers face thanks to a worldwide movement of incredible sex work organisers. We strongly encourage connecting with your local sex work or harm reduction organisation. Many are looking for volunteers to help with outreach or organisation. If there isn’t a local peer-led group in your area, you can always donate to nation wide projects such as SWOP USA, Scarlet Alliance, Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Workers' Collective, European Sex Workers' Rights Alliance or other harm reduction organisations.

We have seen a rise in the number of organisations that are active in the sex industry that don’t have sex workers interests at heart. Often these groups seek to “rescue” sex workers claiming to be “Anti-trafficking” organisations. Many of these organisations advocate against sex worker interests and cause more harm than good to the community and victims of exploitation and human trafficking.

Help reduce stigma in the industry

Another form of violence all sex workers experience is stigma. Harmful narratives around sex work are still being perpetuated by the media. Their aim is to be sensationalistic and evoke disgust and shame. Sex workers face the real world consequences of discrimination. One of the easiest ways to be an ally is to educate yourself and address any prejudices or assumptions you have about sex workers. There are lots of resources available, from articles, blog posts and social media feeds which have been written by sex workers about their lives, needs and concerns. You can read our interviews with sex workers as a great starting point.


Amplify and include the voices of Sex Workers

These harmful narratives mentioned previously, have been created and are being perpetuated by non sex workers. One way to combat this is by simply including and welcoming sex workers into your spaces.

If you're a reporter: Include sex workers in the development of your piece and follow best practices for reporting on sex work. You'll find a great guide to best practices when reporting on sex work on our blog.

If you're a business owner: Consider overlooking prostitution charges when hiring or create a public inclusivity statement on your website. Many sex worker organisations would be more than happy to assist in this if compensated.

If you are a part of a group which advocates for change: There are sex workers in the communities you advocate for and your organisation should reflect that. Amplify the voices of sex workers in your group and listen to them. If they aren’t out in your organisation yet, connect with your local sex worker organisation and ask them how you can help your organisation be inclusive of sex workers. Sex workers are part of all of these groups and should not be ignored. Ask them to speak on your panels and please make sure you pay them!

How does Tryst.link support sex workers?

Unlike many other advertising platforms, Tryst.link is run by sex workers and technologists as an alternative to sites like Backpage.com and others which have felt the wrath of FOSTA/SESTA. We hold the unique privilege of having direct ties to both the tech and sex industry, which has allowed us to build our products in-house, bootstrapped and without outside funding. We put sex workers first in a way that they haven't been by an escort directory before. We encourage feedback from both workers and clients on what they need and want from the platform and we consistently consult with sex workers and sex worker organisations on the development of our product. We're in it for the long run.

Product: The involvement of sex workers in our product development is vital to ensure that we are helping workers inside our business. We are still a very young project but thus far we have included feature sets that allow more options around gender, and the ability for trans folk to list their gender alongside their trans status if they wish. We also have implemented a free plan which allows those who may not be able to afford it, to have a verified ad. We have in house support which is free for all Tryst members, client or worker.

Financially: As of August 2020, and despite Covid-19, we have supported and donated to over 20 organisations based in harm reduction, sex work and education. You can find a full list of these organisations here. We strongly believe in continuing to give back to this community and helping fund the incredible organisers dedicated to fighting for the rights of sex workers around the globe. These activists are experts in their field and their voices need to be amplified. You can find a full list here.

Activism: We usually like to leave this one to the experts who have overseen the industry for decades, but given our background and expertise in tech, we do often speak on digital rights panels and the like to help bridge the gap between the tech and sex work communities. We believe that many tech founders lack the right education to properly understand the effects of censorship and the erasure of marginalised communities. We hope that by helping and guiding them towards experts and activists that this will lead to long term positive change.

Friends of Tryst

Through the development of Tryst we've worked with a number of wonderful organizations to promote and grow our platform. These are just a handful of the generous sites who have lent a helping hand. From all of us at Tryst, we would like to say thank you!

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