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A tryst with Las Vegas BDSM provider Mistress Mae Ling

A tryst with Las Vegas BDSM provider Mistress Mae Ling

. 7 min read

Welcome to our interview series, a tryst with! If you haven't joined us previously, this is a space where you're able to learn directly from sex workers and take a peak into their world. From this series we hope you'll gain a better understanding of not only the ins and outs of the sex industry, but why sex workers advocate for the things they do and how best to support them. Today we chat to Las Vegas BDSM provider, Mistress Mae Ling, about decriminalisation, entrepreneurship and how she likes to unwind.  

Tell us your story, how did you get into the industry and what has your journey looked like thus far?

After living the lifestyle for 5 years I finally found out you can make money from it. I started the lifestyle as it was a beautiful way to connect with people and share so many incredibly unique life experiences; now I continue to live it because it has allowed me to shape my reality in a way where I used to only fantasize about. Having been indulging in the lifestyle for 5 years, there has been a shift and change with learning how to run a business. The shift and change of making something that is your passion into a source of income has been eye opening. Finding the balance and joy of doing what I love has been a wonderful adventure of constant reveal.

How has the industry changed since you started out?

After my first year into the industry, the pandemic had begun. Changing the world and the industry itself. The shift from in person to online, the change from toying with senses to text, the pivot from having control over everything to technical issues. The shift from production companies to everyone being their own producer - having full and complete rights to their own work has been wonderful for models.

What are some of your hobbies and interests outside of work?

I reset and re-center myself with yoga and being in nature. Hikes, camping, frolicking in a meadow, and getting my nails dirty with some dirt. The texture, the life, the warmth of the sun, the way leaves dance in the wind fill me with gratitude for the simple things in life and how little things like that are so peacefully beautiful. Nature puts things into perspective – life grows where it’s unexpected, even the darkest of places. Things change all the time, just like the leaves with the season. Bringing me back to the present and how nothing else matters.

Is there a book, tv show, or movie that has had a significant impact on your life? What was it, and what did it teach you?

Tomb Raider with Angelina Jolie. I remember watching this when I was young and seeing such a strong powerful adventurous woman do whatever she wanted, anywhere in the world – she inspired me. Not only did she kick ass, but there was subtle charisma, charm that mesmerized every person around her. She had them wrapped around her finger. She knew the power of her female form and she used it to get what she wanted. Her wit, smarts and determination brought her to greater things that mere men couldn’t fathom. There is more when one unlocks their mind.

Why do you think it is important for sex work to be decriminalised and how do you think it would change the way you work?

The same reason why weed and alcohol is no longer banned. When you tell people something is hot and that they shouldn’t touch it, they’re going to touch it. Criminalizing sex work prefaces it with a lot of negativity. However, highlighting it as a tool for others to gain social skills or get their sexual needs met is just the tip of the iceberg. Where else does an autistic adult turn to go get their sexual desires fulfilled. Who teaches someone how to appropriately touch and play with the variations of touch? By decriminalizing the work, sex workers are able to then truly focus on the work. Much of our time is frustration of being muted or banned from platforms and more. Sex workers are burnt out from walking around in so much red tape. Why is freedom shoving a pillow upon sex workers to muffle our moans?

What do you think the public should know about the sex industry and sex workers?

Sex workers are not your therapist. If you have had the privilege of getting to know a sex worker and they’ve guided you through some tough times in your life or coached you through relationships, be grateful and thankful. However, most sex workers are not certified therapists or had any training in that realm. While you are vulnerable and open about your life, keep it realistic so that the dynamic between you and the sex worker can continue doing what they love within the realm that they are comfortable in.

When you're having a bad day, what do you do to make yourself feel better?

Go for a hike. Clear my head of negative thoughts and breathe in that fresh air. Gets the heart pumping and then all I focus on is my breath. Enjoy the beautiful scenery and realize how grateful I am that I can go on a hike during the daytime on a weekday, whenever I want. Hikes give me a perspective change, gets me up high so I can see things as a larger picture or be down at the bottom of the mountain and realize that everything is just one small step at a time.

There are a lot of misconceptions surrounding sex work and sex workers. What is one myth you would like to bust?

That good looks and a fantastic pair of tits will get you to the top. Wrong! Sure, looks is one thing that people will initially see, but it takes a whole lot of work to get you loved rather than just noticed. It takes time to build a fan base, it takes time for them to continue falling in love with you and it takes a good business mind to keep yourself fresh in the scene. Sex workers are entrepreneurs – we just look hot while we do the business thing.

We know sex workers are experiencing censorship and discrimination both online and offline. What has your experience been with this and how has it affected your work?

It has now made me numb. It’s just a part of the work that as a sex worker, just accept that it is as it is. It makes you constantly adapt to new things, be on your toes, pivot at any point and to someone else’s change of terms. The only thing one can control is their emotions, will you let the frustration overwhelm you so you lose work or will you roll with the constant punches and build a stronger business? Work smart and try to create your own where someone cannot take it away from you.

What would you say to someone considering going into the industry?

Sex work is work; and a whole lot of it. It looks like it’s easy money because it was made to look that way. It is a business that you will run and promote using platforms that are against the work. Where your account could get shut down because of what you do for work. Platforms you use make money could dump you. Know that it is an uphill battle to exist and there are new challenges every day.

What would your dream date look like?

The individual: glowing, radiantly smiling. Warm touch, firm but soft at the same time. Easy going, but with direction. Intellectual, but not mansplaining.

The activities: I adore things in nature, things that truly get the heart rate up, an adrenaline rush. Admiring the beauty of the world, in awe of untouched lush clean land. With delectably yummy foods in a quiet and cozy place to calm down the day. Cuddles and laughter to seal in the kiss.

My favorite scent is: Freshly baked bread. It’s like a hug for my belly.

My favorite restaurant is: A home cooked meal. Nothing beats fresh food cooked with love.

If you were to buy me a drink at a bar, you should buy me: Anything alcoholic, so I can throw it at your face and be offended that you didn’t know I don’t drink.

My favorite thing to be gifted is: Money so I can buy myself the gift I truly want. My favorite gift isn’t something that can just be bought but getting to know me so that you can gift me something that is specific for that moment in time.

A social cause I care about is: Human trafficking, there are those who enjoy sex work and there are those who are forced into it.

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Miss Mae Ling is a female BDSM provider from Las Vegas, Nevada, United States. ❤ “The Adorable Domme – Miss Mae Ling is the Adorable Domme. A sweet and alluring presence that immediately drops your guard and you to your knees. Her beauty and radiant ...”